Tossed Photos of Husband’s Late Wife..Now He Won’t Look at Me


A woman has turned to strangers to ask for help after she did something “unforgivable” to her husband.

When she met her future husband, she knew he was a widower with a teenage daughter. The two tied the knot a few years later, but she never let him know quite how jealous she was of his lingering memories of his late wife.

A couple years into their relationship, they decided to move to a new home for a fresh start.

When she came across a box of photographs and items from her then-fiancé’s late wife, she threw them away.

The Woman wrote the following in a desperate bid for help:

I met my husband 4 years ago and it was love at first sight. He was a widow and had a daughter (now 17). It was tough to deal with, I won’t lie, but I wanted to be with him so badly that it didn’t matter.

We got married 2 years ago and we’ve had our struggles, I won’t deny, but overall it has been a happy, love-filled marriage.

At the beginning of our relationship, I was really jealous of his late wife.

He had pictures of her around his home, his family loved her and talked about her, his daughter the same, his friends the same. It was tough. 

I was comparing myself to her — she was beautiful, intelligent, successful. She was a great mother, friend, wife, whatever you can think of. I know that people don’t like to speak ill of the dead, but I believe them when they say these things.

I did speak to my then-boyfriend about these feelings and he even took down some of the pictures later in our relationship. Still, his house never felt like my home as it felt like it was still hers.

When we got engaged, we decided we would buy our own home and we moved in right before we got married. Side note: this was very stressful with the wedding so soon after, would not recommend.

During the moving process, I found box after box of old photos and other materials. Photos of his ex, family photos, photos of them together, baby photos, everything. Some of these were polaroids they were so old. They had been together for many, many years and had so much history together. 

When we got engaged, we decided we would buy our own home and we moved in right before we got married. Side note: this was very stressful with the wedding so soon after, would not recommend.

During the moving process, I found box after box of old photos and other materials. Photos of his ex, family photos, photos of them together, baby photos, everything. Some of these were polaroids they were so old. They had been together for many, many years and had so much history together. 

For the past 2 years, my husband hasn’t noticed. My stepdaughter turns 18 soon. She’s a very intelligent girl. She graduated early, goes to a top-tier school, and is very well-adjusted for someone who lost her mother so young.

We have never been that close. I care for her, I do, but she never opened up to me and has never viewed me as a mom to her. I understand, but it hurts.

Anyway, my husband’s mom wanted photos of her as she was putting something together for her.

He went to look for them and as you can imagine, they weren’t there. He asked me about them and I admitted everything to him, as I wasn’t going to lie to him.

He is very angry at me and can barely look at me. I’ve asked him to go to marriage counseling, but he refuses. I’m 13 weeks pregnant and am trying to manage the stress.

He’s devastated, not just for his daughter, but for himself. I know he loved his late wife very much and if she was still here, he’d probably still be with her. 

He’s been in tears half the time when he’s speaking to me and won’t sleep in the same room as me. I have tried to explain that I have felt guilty ever since and why I did it, but he doesn’t care.

He asked me what he’s supposed to tell his daughter? Some of the materials I donated/threw away were really important.

He’s been in tears half the time when he’s speaking to me and won’t sleep in the same room as me. I have tried to explain that I have felt guilty ever since and why I did it, but he doesn’t care.

He asked me what he’s supposed to tell his daughter? Some of the materials I donated/threw away were really important.

I love my husband and I want to fix this more than anything. I know that I am hormonal right now and my mind is wandering around to every outcome that could happen, but what if this is the end of my marriage? I can’t let that happen and need to fix this.

So Smag31 readers, what’s your thoughts? Is there anything she can do to fix this?

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