Topping and Tailing
Spongebathing, or “topping and
tailing,” is the ideal way to keep your baby clean before her umbilical
cord stump falls off, and can be less traumatizing for bath-shy babies.
Small babies don’t get dirty on most of their bodies, but they do tend
to get messy from feeding and in their diaper areas, so washing those
areas is essential.
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Prepare the essentials: a washcloth, cotton balls, a bowl of warm water, a clean diaper, and clean clothes
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Remove the baby’s clothes and wrap him tightly in a clean, dry towel so that his arms are firmly by his sides
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Lay him on a flat surface
near the bowl of water and use the washcloth to wash one body part at a
time. First dampen the washcloth and gently clean his face, using a
fresh corner for each eye, behind his ears, and in the creases of his
neck. Unwrap only one body part from the towel at a time to keep your
baby warm. Gently bring the washcloth under his arms, across his tummy,
down his legs, and between his toes -
Gently clean around his umbilical cord stump
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Gently sit him up, supporting his head as you do so, and wash his back and the backs of his legs
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Clean his genital area and his bottom last
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On days when you’ll be washing his hair, save this step for last—wet his hair, lather, and rinse
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Once again, thoroughly dry his genital area first and get that diaper on
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Dress him and wrap him tightly, ready for a clean-smelling cuddle
Changing your Baby
Many parents set up a
changing table in the baby’s nursery, with diapers, wipes, a bowl for
warm water, cotton balls, diaper cream, and a diaper pail. You may also
choose to set up a mini-station in another part of the house where you
spend time feeding and playing with your baby. Keep a spare set of
clothes there, too.
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Make sure you always change your baby on a firm surface, and do not let him go, even for a second
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In the early days, it makes sense to dress your baby in easy-to-open clothing, which can be removed with the minimum of fuss
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Remember that many babies dislike having their diaper changed, so coo, smile, and sing in a reassuring voice throughout to help ease any fears
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You may wish to hang a distracting mobile or toy over the changing area
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Many babies prefer being washed with warm water rather than a cold wipe; make sure you get the water ready before you set him down for changing
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Alternatively, keep a sealed packet of wipes on a warm (but not too hot) radiator so they aren’t too cold
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With warm water and a thin washcloth or a cotton ball, gently clean around the genital area
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Apply any diaper or barrier cream, and fasten the clean diaper in place
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Check that his undershirt and clothing are clean and dry before putting them back on
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Place the wet or soiled diaper
in the diaper pail; or, if you are using reusables, remove the liner
and place it in some water with a drop of detergent to soak -
Pour out the water you’ve used, and drop any dirty or wet clothing into your baby’s laundry basket
Your Changing Bag
It’s a sensible idea to
keep your changing bag fully stocked and ready to go. It takes long
enough to get a baby ready for an outing, without having to search for
changing bag essentials. Try to make a habit of restocking when you
return home. Every changing bag will be different, but to help you be
prepared for any eventuality, include:
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3–5 clean diapers—if you are using reusables, make sure you have plastic pants and liners, too
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Wipes
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A washcloth, for emergency all-over washes
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Diaper or barrier cream
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1–2 changes of clothes
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1–2 small boxes or cans of ready-made formula (if you use it)
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1–2 clean bottles with lids (if you use them)
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1–2 burp cloths
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1–2 bibs
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A small packet of facial tissues
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A blanket for warmth or for when nursing
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Small toys for distraction
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A clean shirt for you—in the event of a diaper or breast leak
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Breastpads
Creating a Routine
Whether to care for a
baby on a set schedule or on demand is the subject of considerable
debate. The decisions you make should be based on your own lifestyle and
views, as well as your individual baby’s needs. There is also no reason
why you can’t combine the two approaches. Here are some points to
consider:
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Forget about routines for the first few weeks—you need time to bond and get to know each other, and your baby’s own routine will slowly assert itself
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There is no doubt that babies respond well to routines in time, as they grow to learn exactly what to expect and when
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Setting up a routine can bring a gentle rhythm to your baby’s days
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Use a schedule as a guideline,
and don’t force it; all babies have fussy days, and there will also be
days when you may have appointments or activities that mean you aren’t
where you should be come nap- or bathtime -
You can start by taking a walk at roughly the same time each day—do the same with playtime, reading, singing, and her daily bath
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Feeding on a schedule
helps you keep track of how much your baby takes in and ensures that
she is hungrier at feeds; however, it’s crucial to breastfeed on demand
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There is no reason why you can’t feed on demand
while also figuring out a routine—for example, you can offer your baby a
feed when you take a break in the mornings to have a cup of juice or
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Scheduling your baby’s nap- and bedtimes, preceded by a bedtime routine that she learns to associate with sleep, can be useful for poor sleepers